????2006年，希拉?馬塞洛一邊努力照顧兩個(gè)年幼的孩子，一邊要幫助父親從心臟病中恢復(fù)過來。她意識到自己并不孤單，一定還有很多人像她一樣需要幫助，于是她成立了Care.com。這個(gè)網(wǎng)站幫助家長、父母已年老的子女和寵物主人安排合適的護(hù)理人員，從而大幅減輕他們的壓力。馬塞洛被評為2009年《財(cái)富》最具影響力女性企業(yè)家（Most Powerful Women Entrepreneur）。她的公司也非常成功，過去兩年一直在為這項(xiàng)評選活動提供贊助。

????《財(cái)富》最具影響力商界女性榜單始于1998年，次年開始召開年度峰會，如今已成為商界、政界、慈善界、教育和藝術(shù)界女性的一次盛會。每周最具影響力商界女性個(gè)人問答專欄將關(guān)注領(lǐng)導(dǎo)力、期望等問題，當(dāng)然也會關(guān)注工作與生活的平衡問題。

????1. 你獲得過的最好建議是什么？

????每天結(jié)束工作的時(shí)候，想三件當(dāng)天做得很好或做得對的事情，把它們寫下來。你會驚奇地發(fā)現(xiàn)，關(guān)注積極的事情會改變你看待事物的角度。

????2. 你最近讀過的一本書是什么？

????《心的導(dǎo)引:寧靜安住的禪修之道》（Turning the Mind Into an Ally）是一本很了不起的書，我每年都會重新捧起來讀一遍。雖然我不是佛教徒，但我發(fā)現(xiàn)薩姜?米龐仁波切這本書中的許多見解都是了不起的生活技能。我相信，這本書是有關(guān)革新，而非革命的。作為一名母親和公司CEO，我一直都認(rèn)為，閱讀米龐仁波切的作品就是經(jīng)歷一次重要且刺激的旅行，它引導(dǎo)我們通過自我意識來管理壓力。我在菲律賓長大，這里有著發(fā)展中國家常見的場景。我們每天都在努力尋求發(fā)展，持續(xù)成長與學(xué)習(xí)的理念也一直伴隨著我。

????3. 當(dāng)前就業(yè)市場不景氣。你對正在找工作的年輕人有什么建議？

????放棄之前對于“成功”的看法。這是我經(jīng)常提到的一條建議，在就業(yè)市場不景氣的情況下，這條建議顯得更加真切可靠。根據(jù)自己的實(shí)際情況和自己真正想要的東西去設(shè)定目標(biāo)，制定計(jì)劃，不要受到別人的影響。

????4. 你錯(cuò)過的最佳機(jī)會是什么？

????我們年輕的時(shí)候曾希望有一個(gè)女兒。這幾年，我們一直在考慮收養(yǎng)一個(gè)孩子，因?yàn)槲覀兌紣酆⒆印Ｈ绻震B(yǎng)不成功，我希望能抱上孫子。

????In 2006, Sheila Marcelo struggled to take care of two young children while she helped her father recover from a heart attack. Realizing she wasn't alone, she founded Care.com. The website helps connect parents, kids with elderly moms and dads, and pet owners with the appropriate care givers, making their lives drastically less stressful. Marcelo was one of Fortune's Most Powerful Women Entrepreneur winners in 2009 -- and her company's become so successful that it has sponsored the contest for the past two years.

????Fortune's Most Powerful Women started as a list in 1998, kicked off its annual Summit the following year, and has since become a community of the preeminent women in business, government, philanthropy, education, and the arts. This weekly Q&A features one MPW's personal take on leadership, aspirations, and (of course) balance.

????1. What is the best advice you ever received?

????At the end of the day, think about three things that went really well or went right that day and write them down. It's amazing how focusing on the positive can change your perspective.

????2. What was the last book you read?

????Turning the Mind Into an Ally is a great book that I reread every year. Although not a Buddhist myself, I find that Sakyong Mipham offers insights that are an amazing life skill. I believe it is about evolutions, not revolutions, and as both a mom and CEO, I've found Sakyong's work is an influential, provocative journey toward managing stress through self-awareness. As a young woman growing up in the Philippines surrounded by the common scenes of a developing country, growth was something we strove for on a daily basis, and the concept of continued growth and learning has stayed with me.

????3. What would you say to a group of young people looking to enter the tough job market?

????I offer this advice all the time, but it's especially true in a tough job market: Let go of your perception of "success." Set goals and create plans that work for you and what you want from your life, not what someone else dictates.

????4. What was your biggest missed opportunity?

????Wishing we had a daughter when we were younger. We hope to consider adoption in several years since we love children. If not, I'm looking forward to being a grandmother.